Deesca
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Put both sides in, typed or spoken, and get back what each of you actually needs, where you already agree, and the one next step.
Download on the App StoreFree to try on iPhone. Available in 7 languages.
Each of you writes your side, or you invite your partner into a shared room with a code. Deesca returns a structured Peace Treaty: what each of you really feels, the common ground you already share, and a specific next step.
Not an opinion. Not someone taking sides.
Your coach remembers your story, so you never re-explain years of context to ask about one week. Talk it through, rehearse the hard conversation, and hear what you might have missed.
Share a chat screenshot and see what's happening in it, named plainly, with a healthier way to answer.
A one-tap mood check-in and a few lines about your day. Your coach reads it, so the advice keeps up with you.
Recovery time, resolution quality and how the two of you are trending, plus breathing sessions for the moment before you reply.
There are moments in every relationship when you can't make the other person understand you. You feel stuck. You want to fix it, but in that moment you can't step outside of it. What you need is someone who sees both sides without taking one.
Those moments are hard to share. Friends pick a side, family worries, and some things you'd rather not say out loud at all.
And sometimes it isn't about one fight. You just need someone who knows the whole story. Someone you can tell everything to, without starting from the beginning or worrying how it sounds.
I built Deesca because I've been there, more times than I'd like. It's the calm third voice I wished I'd had: one that listens to both of you when you're stuck, and remembers your story when you just need to talk.
— Utku, founder
Questions or feedback? Write to me at deescaapp@gmail.com.
Write or speak your side of what happened. Add your partner's side yourself, or invite them into a shared room with a six-character code so they can write their own. A few moments later you get a Peace Treaty: what each of you is really asking for, the ground you already share, and one specific next step.
No. The Coach, the Red Flag Check and the Daily Reflection are just for you, and you can describe both sides in the Mediator yourself. A shared room is optional. If you open one, your partner joins on their own iPhone with their own account.
No. In a shared room, each of you writes privately. Neither of you sees the other's words, only the guidance you both get back. Either of you can leave the room at any time.
Only you, from your account. Your sessions are stored so that only your account can open them. To write your guidance, the text you send goes to Anthropic's Claude, and voice notes go to OpenAI to be turned into text. Both work under terms that don't let them train their models on your content. Your email address isn't sent to either of them, and we don't keep the audio once it has been transcribed.
We don't sell your data or use it for ads. The details are in the Privacy Policy.
No, and that's the point. Deesca looks at both sides with the same care, names what each of you might be missing, and avoids picking a winner. If you only want someone to agree with you, it will disappoint you a little.
No. Deesca is supportive coaching and reflection, not a therapist, and it doesn't diagnose anyone. It can help you understand an argument and plan the next conversation. If you feel unsafe or are in crisis, contact your local emergency services or a qualified professional.
You can try one mediation, three messages with your Coach and one Red Flag Check. The Daily Reflection, mood tracking and breathing sessions stay free. Premium unlocks everything else, without limits. You'll see the price in your own currency in the app before you pay.
In the app, open Settings and choose Manage subscription. You can also go to iPhone Settings, tap your name, then Subscriptions. Apple handles the billing, so cancelling takes a few taps and you keep Premium until the end of the period you paid for.
Yes. Go to Settings and tap Delete account. This permanently erases your account and everything in it: sessions, reflections, your Coach's memory and your partner's details.
Deesca is on iPhone in English, German, Spanish, French, Italian, Portuguese and Turkish. It follows your phone's language, and you can change it in Settings.